This was a long long process, but so worth it. You have to stay with it and fight for your family and yourself. There are also many resources out there. I had multiple restraining orders and had to go back to court many many times. But in the end the judges listened and did what was best for my daughter and I. There were many things that helped this. I kept a journal of everything that happened, the good and the bad. Your safety and your children's safety has to come first and I am not just talking to women because there are plenty of dads out there that are scared of the court system. My judge was very firm about the fact that it is important for both parents to be apart of the child's life if it is what is best. They are not a pawn in the war, they are people.